Why You Won’t Find Me on Social Media

There’s something you may have noticed:

I’m not on social media.

No daily posts.
No stories.
No constant updates.

And it’s not because I don’t care about connection.
It’s not because I don’t value community.

It’s because I’ve chosen a different way to be present.

My Life Isn’t Meant to Be Lived Online

There was a time when I thought I should be on social media.

That it was part of building a business.
That visibility meant being everywhere.
That showing up meant constantly sharing.

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized:

The life I’m creating isn’t meant to be lived through a screen.

It’s meant to be felt.
Experienced.
Lived slowly and fully.

And I didn’t want to trade that
for the pressure to always be “on.”

Presence Looks Different for Me

The work I offer—healing, awareness, nervous system support—
it asks for presence.

Real presence.

The kind that can’t be rushed.
The kind that can’t be filtered.
The kind that doesn’t fit neatly into a caption.

And I found that the more I tried to keep up with social media,
the more it pulled me away from that.

Away from my body.
Away from my family.
Away from the quiet spaces where this work actually lives.

So I chose to return to what matters.

I Don’t Want to Perform My Life

Social media often asks us—subtly—to perform.

To package moments.
To shape them into something shareable.
To think about how something will be received
while we’re still living it.

And that never felt aligned for me.

I don’t want to experience my life
through the lens of how it will look to others.

I want to be in it.

Fully.

Without an audience.

My Children Deserve a Life That Isn’t Public

This is a big part of it, too.

My children didn’t choose to be online.
They didn’t choose to have a public-facing life.

And I don’t want their childhood to exist
in a space that invites constant visibility.

Choosing not to be on social media
is one way I protect that.

It allows our life to stay ours.

Quiet.
Private.
Sacred.

You Can Still Find Me—Just Not There

Connection still matters to me.

Deeply.

But instead of social media,
I’ve created spaces that feel more intentional:

This website.
My writing.
My email offerings.
My courses.

Places where you can slow down.
Take what you need.
And come back to yourself.

Without noise.
Without comparison.
Without overwhelm.

This Is What Alignment Looks Like for Me

There’s nothing wrong with social media.

For many people, it’s creative, inspiring, and supportive.

But for me, it doesn’t feel aligned
with the way I want to live or work.

And I’ve learned to trust that.

To choose depth over visibility.
Presence over performance.
A slower path over a louder one.

And Maybe This Is Your Permission, Too

If social media has ever felt heavy…
If you’ve questioned your relationship with it…
If part of you craves more space, more quiet, more real connection…

You’re allowed to choose differently.

You’re allowed to step back.
To redefine how you show up.
To build something meaningful
without being everywhere all the time.

Because your life doesn’t have to be visible
to be valuable.

And your work doesn’t have to be loud
to be powerful.

Be Well,

Becky

In a world where social media is often seen as essential for business and connection, more people are exploring alternatives that support mental health, presence, and intentional living. Choosing not to use social media can be a conscious decision rooted in alignment, privacy, and a desire for a deeper, more meaningful connection.