Mindfulness in the Middle of the Mess
How I Live a Mindful Life as a Mom and Small Business Owner
When people hear the phrase mindful lifestyle, they often imagine long, quiet mornings, uninterrupted meditation, and an aesthetically pleasing cup of tea that stays hot.
I smile at that image because my life looks very different.
I’m a mom of four, including two toddlers, and I run a small business. My days are loud, full, and often unpredictable. And yet… mindfulness is woven into my life—not despite the chaos, but because of it.
For me, mindfulness isn’t about escaping my life. It’s about meeting it, one small moment at a time.
Mindfulness Isn’t Another Thing on the To-Do List
I used to think that to be “mindful,” I needed more time. More space. More quiet. But motherhood taught me something powerful: mindfulness works best when it fits into the life you already have.
It shows up in tiny, intentional pauses.
Like the shower.
The shower might be one of the only times I’m alone all day, and instead of rushing through it, I savor it. I feel each drop of water hit my skin. I notice the warmth, the sound, the sensation of being held for just a moment. That’s mindfulness, no incense required.
Finding Stillness in Unexpected Places
When my kids have their TV time, I don’t scroll or multitask. I sit by the window and watch the world go by. Cars passing. Trees moving. Light shifting.
It’s not dramatic. It’s not long. But it brings me back into my body and into the present moment. These tiny resets matter more than we realize.
Creating Micro-Moments of Grounding at Work
As a small business owner, my days can move fast. Before work, I step into my studio a few minutes early, and I pause.
I take a few deep breaths. I feel my feet on the ground. I remind myself that I don’t need to rush into the next thing. That short pause helps me show up more present, more centered, and more myself.
Between each client, I intentionally clear my energy. I ground myself. I let go of what doesn’t belong to me so I can fully hold space for the next person and for myself. This practice isn’t extra; it’s essential.
Boundaries Are a Form of Mindfulness
One of the most supportive practices I’ve built into my life is simple: my phone goes on Do Not Disturb from 7 pm to 7 am.
That boundary protects my nervous system. It protects my family time. It reminds me that I don’t need to be available to the world at all hours to be successful, caring, or responsible.
Mindfulness isn’t just about what we do; it’s also about what we choose not to engage with.
Mindfulness With Kids (Yes, Really)
I don’t practice mindfulness away from my kids. I practice it with them.
We do yoga together, sometimes calm, sometimes giggly, sometimes completely chaotic. And that’s okay. They’re learning to move their bodies, to breathe, to notice how they feel. I’m learning to let go of perfection and stay present.
These moments are messy, beautiful, and deeply human. They remind me that mindfulness doesn’t require silence; it requires awareness.
A Mindful Life Can Be Loud, Full, and Real
If you’re a mom who feels like mindfulness is just another thing you’re failing at, I want you to hear this:
You don’t need a perfect routine.
You don’t need an hour a day.
You don’t need a quiet house.
Mindfulness can live in your shower, your car, your studio, your boundaries, your breath. It can happen while toddlers climb on you, and life keeps moving.
A mindful life isn’t about slowing everything down. It’s about being here for it, just as it is.
And that, in my experience, is more than enough.
If this way of living mindfulness feels supportive to you, I’d love to invite you to go a little deeper. I offer free meditations and online classes designed for real-life, busy schedules, full hearts, and energetic systems that need care, not perfection. These practices are meant to meet you exactly where you are, whether you have two quiet minutes or a little more space to breathe. You can explore them whenever it feels right for you.
Be Well,
Becky
